June 16, 2020

In these extraordinary times, consider if you agree with any of the following statements:

My priorities have changed.

I now know what's important to me in my life.

I value my life and the ones of those dear to me.

I can better appreciate each day. 

Today’s post on Appreciation of Life is the fourth part of my Post-Pandemic Growth series, based on the phenomenon of posttraumatic growth. The Posttraumatic Growth Inventory created by pioneer researchers Tedeschi and Calhoun, show “authentic” personal growth in different dimensions including personal strength, relationships and finding meaning. The focus today will be on the domain of Appreciation of Life post-trauma – a greater acknowledgement and value for all things life has to offer, be it large or small, perhaps things, experiences or relationships that were once taken for granted. Undergoing trauma often allows individuals the opportunity to see life as the gift of a second chance and one they often realise should be deeply cherishe...

August 13, 2018

There are so many times in life we feel helpless and not in control. Be it with something going on in our personal or professional lives, national events, crisis or tough situations that leave us feeling lost, sad, upset and helpless. Most of us have been in this situation more than once. Here are a few tips on what you can do when you feel helpless.

Stop Buffering: Buffering is when we use external things to change or avoid what we are feeling. By constantly running away from what we are feeling we are trying to solve it by seeking false pleasure. So it goes something like this - because we are feeling unhappy and helpless we either overeat or binge drink, watch countless hours of Netflix, all to escape or avoid what we are feeling. In fact when we feel helpless it’s better to allow ourselves to really feel our emotions, in a deeper way. When we get to know ourselves in a deeper way, we can start taking action to address the real issues and emotions.

Exercising: Physical activity – ligh...

May 20, 2018

I have a big confession to make. For so many years of my life, I had been a people pleaser. I grew up in a society that conditioned and raised me to please every single person - family, friends, neighbours, acquaintances and even random people. From my childhood, I got into this pattern of pleasing people and I have to say that it severely crippled the way I was living. It took me such a long time to understand this and start training myself to start saying NO to others so I can say YES to myself.

This is pretty powerful stuff and one of the reasons I want to bring this out here in the open and talk about it more is because I find many people in a similar situation. Think about this – How many times have you lied and said yes to doing something when you didn’t want to, but you did it anyway to please the other person? Take a moment, close your eyes and recall the last time you did this? What’s coming up? So, if you are a people pleaser and a really good one at that, then read on.

My frie...

May 7, 2018

I’m going to dive into a little story from my life. As I’ve said in another blog, I hit a milestone age last year. I turned 40 and the best part of turning 40 was I completed a huge challenge I set for myself at the age of 38. I wanted to challenge myself to do something mammoth. So I decided to run 40 half marathons in the UK and Europe and complete it by my 40th Birthday. I remember the day I set this task - I was in my old flat in Compayne Gardens, sitting in my kitchen and sharing this thought with my husband. I didn’t panic or stress and for not even one moment did I doubt that I wouldn’t be able to do it. I knew it was going to get done.

You are probably thinking that when I set this challenge I was a runner for a long time, fit and strong and had raced many races. No, none of that is true. I was 15-20 pounds overweight, on a crazy diet I had l picked up from somewhere with zero strength training and not even a clue as to how I would train for a half marathon. All I had done were...

April 16, 2018

I can’t believe it’s April already. I honestly love this time of year. We are back on British Summer Time, there’s more daylight and the days feel longer. To add to my joy, I put away my winter clothes yesterday and I am delighted that my spring/summer outfits are out and back in my wardrobe. This feels magical especially after all those weeks of rain and cold and we can finally expect some glorious warm weather this week. So I thought what better time than now to write about change.

Earlier this year I wrote about the mind – thoughts and feelings and offered some insights on healthy thinking styles and mindfulness tools to help us shift unhealthy thoughts. This time I want to zone in on how we can change habits to create a happy healthy body.

My friends, if you think I’m going to list out diets and offer weight loss techniques, then please stop reading because I will be disappointing you. I believe, to make any change more powerful and long lasting we need to move away from quick fixes...

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