September 17, 2018

Earlier this year, I read Derek Rydall’s latest book – The Abundance Project. Built on universal, proven principles, The Abundance Project breaks out of the unsustainable buying/consuming loop created by the mindset that fulfillment comes from outside ourselves. Instead, Derek Rydall talks about the infinite-sum reserve that’s already in us that will provide all that we need.

Rydall teaches the laws of giving and circulation that will release the channels of abundance-creating energy in our lives through his Seven Gifts that Give You Everything; he helps us identify Abundance Blind Spots and Shadows that get in the way and so much more. This book taught me so much and ever since I read it, I’ve been practicing one on the gifts consciously and frequently– The Gift of Giving.

So now instead of waiting for my yearly spring-cleaning I’ve started organising and de-cluttering wardrobes, kitchen cupboards and rooms and giving away things I don’t need or use to charity on a...

July 1, 2018

As I write this post, I’m reminded of season finales. Another school year is coming to a close and we are properly getting into summer. Most schools, at least the private ones are closing at the end of this week in the U.K. The last few weeks at my daughter’s school has all been about summer concerts, sports day, plays, end of year trips and goodbyes.

In a funny way it’s been quite similar for me at work. My coaching sessions peak at term time and as I coach many mums and mumpreneurs my coaching too seems to fall into this school term mode. Its crazy and hectic during school term and slow during school breaks. I’m not complaining at all as I like this pattern. I get to focus on coaching and sessions during school term and spend more quality time with my family and business development during the holidays.

But there is a specific reason as to why I’m writing this post today. The last couple of weeks as I spent coaching some of my clients I had this interesting observation. As schools clos...

May 20, 2018

I have a big confession to make. For so many years of my life, I had been a people pleaser. I grew up in a society that conditioned and raised me to please every single person - family, friends, neighbours, acquaintances and even random people. From my childhood, I got into this pattern of pleasing people and I have to say that it severely crippled the way I was living. It took me such a long time to understand this and start training myself to start saying NO to others so I can say YES to myself.

This is pretty powerful stuff and one of the reasons I want to bring this out here in the open and talk about it more is because I find many people in a similar situation. Think about this – How many times have you lied and said yes to doing something when you didn’t want to, but you did it anyway to please the other person? Take a moment, close your eyes and recall the last time you did this? What’s coming up? So, if you are a people pleaser and a really good one at that, then read on.

My frie...

April 9, 2018

Last week, I wrote about how we use buffers to avoid negative emotions. I also spoke to you about how facing those negative emotions head on, embracing and dealing with them will allow us to have more control and power over our emotions. Today I want to dig a little deeper and shine the spotlight on an emotion that I believe holds us back from achieving our true potential – Fear.

At some point or the other we all feel fear and that does not mean something has gone wrong. We as human beings have fear programmed and wired in us. In earlier times fear was extremely crucial for survival – it kept us safe from predators and from actually being eaten alive! Even today fear serves us in so many ways – it keeps us from running into traffic, being alert in a dark alley, jumping off dangerous cliffs and in real fight or flight situations. But my friends, when we really think about the things we are afraid of they are mostly irrational fears. In one of my earlier blogs I wrote about how thoughts c...

April 2, 2018

I came across this book called The Pleasure Trap by authors - Douglas. J. Lisle and Alan Gold Hammer. It’s an interesting read about the unique insights into our motivational factors. The authors talk about a triad called the motivational triad that helps explain what drives and has driven human behaviour over centuries. According to them, the triad quite simply is this: as humans we a) seek pleasure, b) avoid pain and c) are driven by energy efficiency.  While this may sound a tad simplistic, on a very basic level this triad has helped ensure our survival as a species. Hunger is painful, so we seek food.  Eating is pleasurable, as is sex.  And the most energy efficient way to get that food the better!  It is easy to see how this triad helped us survive. But, does this really serve us anymore? Are we not evolved enough to face and allow discomfort in order to grow?

So my friends, I thought I’d use this week to talk about something bold and deep – The power of em...

February 26, 2018

Last week, I wrote about mindfulness, time travelling, and the power of ‘eating your strawberry’ in the present moment.  I want to take some thoughts from last week and apply that to a topic I feel would be useful for mums – dealing with mum anxiety.

I’m a mother of a teenager. That my friends, means on some days I feel like I’m having a mini panic attack! My favourite triggers – my daughter’s physical and emotional health and well being; her academics - is she choosing the right GSCE subjects, are her teachers supporting her, is she studying hard; her safety – is she safe on her way back from school, is her phone with her so she can message me; social - does she have enough friends, what influences do they have on her… I can go on and on but I’m sure you get the picture. As a mum and a life coach who works with many other mums, I often hear a similar story. I’ve seen this anxiety range from mums of new-borns to mums who have kids going into university and I’m not even sure it ends ther...

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