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March 24, 2020

How are you doing? A question we would not think twice about answering in the past has now become such a deep and loaded question. And when I mean past, I mean two weeks ago. So much has changed for so many of us in such a short period of time that I can’t even get my mind around it all. Where do I even start? From toilet rolls and essentials flying off shelves, to school closures, mandatory work-from home measures, social distancing and National exam cancellations, perhaps for all of us the worst is still yet to come? We will probably see a rise in Covid-19 cases, higher death tolls, stricter distancing measures, mandatory lockdowns and a massive slowdown to our economy that will take forever to recover. Life as we know it has changed and what should we do?

A couple of weeks ago, I thought I had the answers to this. I thought this is simple – I’ve experienced childhood trauma, survived 9/11, battled Posttraumatic Stress Disorder and changed my life around helping people in the mental h...

May 14, 2019

I am so pleased to be back here on my blog and write a post for the very first time this year. Ever since I started my Masters in Applied Positive Psychology and Coaching Psychology (MAPPCP) I haven’t had much time to do much else other than focus on the program itself which was a combination of lectures, course work, reading journal papers and core texts, research and my assessment itself which is a portfolio on positive psychology interventions. My first module is over and I’m so pleased with the learning and all that I have absorbed in this academic process. So I am here today because I would want to share some of the wisdom.

So first, what is positive psychology? For the uninitiated, positive psychology is a relatively new movement. Martin Seligman is the founder of positive psychology and is a leading authority in this field. Seligman's work researching learned pessimistic attitudes eventually led him to develop an interest in optimism, an interest that would eventually lead to the...

January 21, 2019

I look at 2019 as a year in my life where I will invest heavily in my learning, my business, my family and my self-growth. Interestingly, this is also an investment year for my family. For my daughter who will be preparing really hard this year so she can sit her GCSEs next year – a big year for her of learning and commitment. For my partner, who will be investing his time and effort to pursue his personal and professional goals.

I believe investment years are so important. They call for massive action from our part, commitment, passion, drive and of course some sacrifices. I’ve also noticed that it’s in these years we tend to push ourselves outside of our comfort zones, face fear, failure and perhaps even feel like quitting. There’s no instant gratification in investment years only delayed gratification. However, if we can pull through, be resilient and keep our eyes on the prize the results will be tremendous.

I’m sure there are many of you out there for whom 2019 is a year where you w...

January 11, 2019

A keystone habit is a very special habit. It’s one single powerful habit that touches many aspects of your life. Developing one keystone habit can lead to the development of multiple good habits. They start a chain effect in your life that produces a number of positive outcomes.

A keystone habit is no more difficult to form than any other habit, yet it provides the most benefits. According to Charles Duhigg:

They extend small senses of victory - By completing a keystone "habit loop," as he calls it (cue - habit - reward), we're filled with a sense of accomplishment. It's a small win that we can then build from, acting as the foundation for a successful day.

They act as the soil from which other good habits grow - When we complete a keystone habit loop, we're more inclined to engage in other good habits. For example, when we exercise, we're likely to drink more water, take a vitamin, and eat healthy meals.

They provide you with energy, confidence, and the momentum to achieve more - As the k...

January 7, 2019

Happy New Year my dear friends! I hope you all had a lovely break and holiday season with your friends and family and I hope you are back feeling refreshed and re-energised. I had a great time with my family, did a bit of travel and was extremely fortunate to be with the people I love and enjoy some warmth and sunshine. I’m filled with gratitude.

I’m personally excited for 2019. I’m starting my part time Masters Programme – an MSc. in Applied Positive Psychology and Coaching Psychology next week and I can’t wait to challenge, stretch myself and learn more. I also want to continue to focus on mental health and wellbeing; grow my coaching practice and work with more women.

This is in tune with my purpose – to empower and change lives of women through coaching. I want to continue to focus on the care and wellbeing of my family and of course my own self-care so I can be my best self. That is me, in a nutshell.

Over the holidays I read Robert Biswas-Diener’s Book on Practicing Positive Psychol...

December 14, 2018

My dear friends, this is my last post for 2018. At the beginning of the year, I promised myself that I would either record an episode on the Live Authentic Podcast or write a coaching related relevant article on my blog once a week. I really am so thrilled that I’ve been able to do that without missing even one week.

So why was this so important to me?  My friends, through my blog and podcast, I really want to put as much quality and good information out in the world as I can. In a way circulating the good stuff. I learn and share.

I work directly with clients, but there are so many who are not ready financially or otherwise to come into 1:1 coaching. So this is my way of reaching out and putting useful information out in the world and I really hope it finds you at a time and place it can benefit you. So Thank You for being here.

A couple of weeks ago, I ran a workshop for a group of lovely women and mums on setting goals for 2019 from a place of values, meaning and fulfillment. I re...

December 9, 2018

A few months ago, I told my teenage daughter that she should stop asking me for permission. Stop asking me for consent, not just for the small stuff but also for some of the bigger things. We discussed it and I said to her that she is getting older and it would be empowering for her to start making decisions on her own. I also told her that her mum and dad are always around and supportive. And of course, if she needs to check on something or talk to us about any decision she can always come to us. I thought she would be thrilled about making her own decisions, but she looked at me in a bizarre way, wondering why I would say that.

It was almost at that moment I realised how wired we are to seek permission. As kids we seek permission from our parents and teachers. As adults we seek permission from our bosses, partners or other authorities. We are so conditioned to ask for permission or seek approval that it threatens us to give ourselves permission to do what is right for us. This was and...

December 3, 2018

There’s really no good way for me to start this Monday morning post. And there’s really no right way. My dear friend and mentor Mary Can passed away unexpectedly.

I met Mary in 2011, the year I founded my own enterprise. My company, a social enterprise, worked with women’s groups in India, Sri Lanka and Africa and offered them the opportunity to use their talent and skills to create sustainable home-ware products.

During this time, I connected with incredibly brave women, many of whom were subject to domestic abuse, and created opportunities to showcase their talent on an international platform. I was involved in every stage of the journey and when the finished products arrived in London, I also did the marketing and distribution at different events, pop up stores, museums and through my online store.

Initially I started trading and showcasing the products in London, locally in my neighbourhood with my very first event at the Hampstead Market. I remember that day like it was yesterday. I...

November 25, 2018

Belated Happy Thanksgiving my friends. The neighbourhood I live in, here in London is home to a number of expats from the U.S. So we are quite often exposed to American holidays especially Halloween and Thanksgiving. Personally we don’t do much at home for Thanksgiving here, but we did celebrate when we lived in New York. I really love this holiday and last week I got so nostalgic looking at old pictures from our New York days. I was re-living our Thanksgiving moments and dinners and relishing it.

What I did do last week with some of my clients and family was request them to make a gratitude list. Very often we get caught up in the day-to-day – caring for our families, working, putting out fires, dealing with daily situations and focussing on things that simply need to get done. We often forget to be present, take stock of our lives and give thanks.

Gratitude is getting a great deal of attention as a facet of positive psychology. I’m sure I’ll be able to come here and share more on this...

November 19, 2018

How many times have we asked ourselves this question – What is the worst that can happen? And because of just this one question, how many times have we stopped ourselves from doing something we really wanted? How many times have we sat and contemplated and catastrophised all worst-case scenarios, allowed fear to get the better of us and then just run back to our comfort zones? Countless times, right?

At the end of this month, I’m going to be running a workshop for a group of women, primarily mums, on fulfilment and goal setting for 2019. I spent some time today planning the event, tools and frameworks that I want to use. Quite often, when I talk to groups or work with clients on their goals and help them move out of their comfort zones, I can sense panic and very often see people going over all their worst-case scenarios to the extent that it hinders their growth. And that got me thinking. So, I left my preparation and opened my laptop to write this short post as I feel this topic is re...

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